No one’s life is born flawless. People will stumble eventually no matter how careful they walk the path. Either ends up hurting someone’s feeling or being hurt. It’s so normal to feel pain when being hurt, or have guilt when hurting someone, since people are treated by how they treat others, equally said and done for harmonic life.
Saying sorry for apologizing is a common way to express how people regret their previous misbehaves, and as a consequent, they try to cope with them verbally. The urge appears from their sense of justice. How their guilt directs their action to set it right back again. Unfortunately, we may never know how sincere it’s said.
Or do we really need to know?
Some people have their own high ego. Their pride. Their own compass of truth and justice. No wonder it would be so hard for them to admit the mistakes. But one worth thing to remember, sorry won’t come out from them unless they have dealt with their personal values. Values which resonate with people surround them, and tell them that there’s something wrong needs to be fixed, even with their apology.
In other case, some people don’t resonate these values. Deep down perhaps they don’t feel anything wrong, but they will say that apology word for the sake of their circles. Apology always tends to be an appropriate way to behave in social interactions, and they see no disadvantages to act that way. From some point of view people will call it an act of hypocrite. However, there’s fact that everyone has their own right to have different values which shouldn’t be imposed to others.
Thus, here’s the point.
Every regret—how small it is—has hurt the heart. Our heart deserves to be in peace, no matter what they say. We should know how to spot the warning sign they give us. When people say sorry, look how they behave after. Once could be figured out as a mistake, but repetition of old mistakes shows a person’s trait. It reveals that our pain has no meaning for them. Despite how personal the decision to forgive and forget could be, what we should take on consideration are these two things: how worse the pain it causes and when to break the pattern, letting go toxic people from our life.
In the end, under no circumstances it doesn’t justify us to do the same to others. We learn how to respect ourselves by not repeating the same faults. We learn how to be reliable when we’re responsible of our actions. Those are what people will seek from us, so let them know that we do it purely as a proof of how noble our life will be.
